“ You cannot live with someone who does not share” is the uncompromising social principle of the San hunter-gatherers of the Kalahari Desert, for whom sharing extends far beyond food. It encompasses bodily space, ritual practice, material goods, actions, ideas, and relationships. Sharing is not generosity – it is the very condition of living together. This system has no written laws, no formal authority, and no reliance on fear or sorcery. What sustains it is a clear-eyed engagement and a disciplined refusal of excess attachment. Based on long-term fieldwork beginning in 1988, an anthropologist who lived among the San offers a vivid ethnographic account of their world, with particular attention to the lives of women. In an age of relentless consumption, this portrait of desert life invites us to reconsider what it truly means to live well together.