Why Does He Do That?: Inside The Minds Of Angry And Controlling Men

Lundy Bancroft
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Why Does He Do That?: Inside The Minds Of Angry And Controlling Men

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Praise for Lundy Bancroft and Why Does He Do That?

“Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships.”—Gavin de Becker, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Fear and Fear Less

“Most books about abuse in relationships focus on women—how they’re hurt, why they stay. As important as these questions are, they can also distract us from the heart of the problem. Bancroft boldly asks—and brilliantly answers—the most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is desperately needed and long overdue.”—Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning video Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity

“This fascinating investigation into what makes abusive men tick is alarming but its candid handling of a difficult subject makes it a valuable resource for professionals and victims alike…Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancroft’s book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families.”—Publishers Weekly
 
“Bancroft, a former codirector of Emerge, the first U.S. program for abusive men, and a 15-year veteran of work with abusive men, reminds readers that each year in this country, two to four million women are assaulted by their partners and that at least one out of three American women will be a victim of violence by a husband or boyfriend at some point in her life. His valuable resource covers early warning signs, ten abusive personality types, the abusive mentality, problems with getting help from the legal system, and the long, complex process of change…This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended.”—Library Journal

Overall rating: 4.9545455 / 5 from 22 reviews.

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Invaluable Insight!

"Lundy Bancroft has invaluable knowledge on how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. This has helped me understand what my ex-husband was thinking and how to stand up for myself - highly recommended!"

Starla (5/5)

Would recommend

"Informative and helpful. Well written and the layout of each chapter makes it an uncomplicated read."

Ally (4/5)

Understanding manipulation

"I saw this on tiktok and I’m so glad I found this. This has helped me a lot especially from past relationships and even friendships and has made me realize things I have not realized in the past. Super helpful. To see the beyond the mind of a narcissist. Seeking beyond narcissism, seeking beyond the blame"

Steph (5/5)

An invaluable resource in recognizing abusive relationships

"Anyone coming out of an abusive relationship between or currently trapped in one should read this book. It details the telltale signs of a narcissistic partner and why they aren’t respecting you. I hope everyone that needs this book gets to read it. It should really be taught in schools. Praying for everyone struggling out there."

Bozi (5/5)

Excellent and Educational

"Excellent and educational. Everybody should be required to read this book; either to avoid being with someone like this, or to avoid becoming one."

Lauren (5/5)

great read

"amazing ideas and ways to cope and not place Blame on yourself for his behaviours"

Kathleen (5/5)

Excellent book

"Lifesaving information for women who have been in toxic relationships with abusive, narcissistic men."

Mk F. (5/5)

This is a very good book with lots of information.

"I have had this book before but needed a new copy. This is an exceptionally well written and informative book. I highly recommend this book. This is the third copy I have had including one that I originally borrowed from the Library"

Hellie (5/5)

Something important for girlies in their 20s!

"Very insightful, an important read for young women."

Marleybarley (5/5)

Buy extra copies

"A vital read for basically everyone. I have extra copies on hand to lend out (and usually let them keep)."

Brey (5/5)

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  • Published date: Sep 02, 2003
  • Language: English
  • No. of Pages: 448
  • Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
  • ISBN: 9780425191651
  • Dimensions: 5.95" W x 0.97" L x 9.0" H
Lundy Bancroft has over twenty-five years of experience in the fields of abuse, trauma, and recovery. He has published five books, including the bestseller Why Does He Do That?, Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, The Batterer as Parent, and Should I Stay of Should I Go?. Lundy has worked with over 1000 abusive men in his counseling groups. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness, and has presented to 350 audiences across the U.S. and abroad.

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