Next time life gets you down, don''t put on a happy face, says psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson, author of the new bookConstructive Wallowing [... ] Crying, punching your pillow and screaming are all healthy ways to deal. (Just don''t kick the cat)." -Health "If you''ve ever ignored difficult feelings or if your inner critic has been riding you to be constructive every minute of the day, psychotherapist Gilbertson has written a counterintuitive self-help book that offers constructive advice for boosting self-compassion by wallowing in negative feelings." -Publishers Weekly "Laughter is the best medicine, as many have said, and psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson''s new book,Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them is laugh-out-loud funny. The author conveys her insightful thesis in smart, welcoming language that entertains and enlightens along the way." -ForeWord Reviews "The author''s emphasis is on self-compassion-the notion that maybe in spite of our messy emotions and questionable behavior, we really aren''t so bad after all. In other words, you don''t have to beat yourself up for being a growing, unfolding, spiritual human being." -New Thought Magazine "To constructively wallow, immerse yourself in your real feelings with compassion and understanding." -EverydayHealth.com "Feeling bad and wallowing about it can actually lead to feeling better." -Examiner.com "InConstructive Wallowing, renowned U.S. psychologist Tina Gilbertson makes the extraordinary claim that dwelling on our bad feelings is, in fact, the key to health and happiness." -Daily Mail "Bookmark this!" -Mindful Magazine "InConstructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them by Psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson, Tina describes the counterintuitive but powerful truth about how difficult feelings can lead to greater happiness. Wallowing constructively is not a just a skill but a lifestyle, a new way to be the best version of the same you." -AM Northwest "This wise book is a friend when you are struggling with making sense of your dark moods and brooding thoughts." -Express UK "Tina Gilbertson offers a practical and effective alternative to kicking yourself when you''re down." -Natural Awakenings "Fed up with being told to ''think positive''? It''s okay to be miserable now and again, as long as you do it mindfully as a way to feel happy again, says psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson." -Woman & Home "An upbeat, easy-to-read guide for changing the Inner Critic into the Inner Friend." -Retailing Insight "The advice given in this book seems self-evident but it''s actually quite practical. Gibertson''s main point goes against much of the ''you can do it'' school of self-help, and instead advocates even five minutes of your time to feel sad about whatever it is you want to feel sad about." -Sunday Herald "[Tina Gilbertson] believes ignoring anger (or any negative emotion) could do more harm than good. Think of all emotions like your toes, says Tina. They''re just there, for a purpose, not harmful, not wrong." -Sunday Mirror "By advocating what is basically a deep examination and acceptance of emotions, author and counselor Tina Gilbertson offers readers a few handy tools to help get rid of those feelings that seem to hang around like an overstayed guest in the back bedroom. Some of the methods are given in step-by-step fashion while others, though moderately repetitive, advocate more of an overall, big-picture helping hand. And if readers still struggle with emotions they''d rather not have, Gilbertson finishesher book with advice on finding a therapist to help. Yes, what''s here may be somewhat alternative but when the remains of a disappointment just won''t let go,Constructive Wallowing seemed to me to be worth a try. And if that''s what you need in a book, keep this close." -Terri Schlichenmeyer "Tina Gilbertson''sConstructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them is a great tool to help you THINK about how to deal with those emotions that can negatively affect your life. What I appreciate the most about this book is the clarity of thought the author demonstrates, reflected in the clarity of writing, which allows for readers to consider the advice given within the framework by which they live their lives." -Sahar''s Reviews "There is a certain liberation in the very act of constructive wallowing, freeing oneself from the need to disregard or bury negative feelings, especially during these times of burgeoning positive psychology. From the onset of this read, and all the way through, one can feel that is not only allowable, but essential, to allow ourselves the full range of emotions. Through relatable stories and personal and clinical wisdom, Tina Gilbertson shows us that we feel less happiness when we disallowwallowing constructively, that there is no joy without the full range of human emotion.Constructive Wallowing is an inspiring read that will change the way you see your emotional life. This book will change the way I practice. -Dr. John Duffy, author ofThe Available Parent "Where cognitive therapy teaches you what''s wrong with your thinking, Tina Gilbertson''sConstructive Wallowing teaches you what''s right with your feeling. Her style is light and breezy but her message is profound. Both wise and engaging - like a great therapist - this book can start you on the path of self-awareness and self-acceptance that is the essence of healing. And it''s good for therapists too. I found especially useful Tina''s focus on recognizing the disparaging, dismissive inner critic that keeps us stuck in our painful feelings by preventing us from really feeling and learning from them." -Elio Frattaroli, M.D., authorHealing the Soul in the Age of the Brain "If you''ve already discovered that ''trying to think positive'' only makes you feel worse, it''s time to embraceConstructive Wallowing instead. This wise and witty book shows why pushing bad feelings away never works, and offers a practical approach to the more liberating alternative of allowing yourself to feel them. Ignore those grinning gurus: Tina Gilbertson explains how anxiety, anger, sadness and fear can be a doorway to a far more profound kind of happiness." - Oliver Burkeman, author ofThe Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can''t Stand Positive Thinking "