"This book provides an overview of some of the impacts that traumatic experiences can have on relationships. Make no mistake, each of these topics-trauma and relationships-could fill a library. The power of this book is in the unique perspectives provided by the author. Dr. Towns is an experienced clinician with a focus on treating trauma and a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, familiar with the range of marginalizing, sensitizing interactions that permeate that experience. This alone could provide a powerful and important lens for an examination of these issues. But Dr. Towns brings us into her own life-her own marriage-in a very intimate and courageous way to show the reader how trauma, identity, early relational templates, and 'what happened to us' all play out in our most important loving relationships-in good ways and bad. I highly recommend Our Deepest Roots. The key points can be generalized to fit non-LGBTQIA+ relationships and carry the key message that all relationships are fragile and fraught, yet full of hope and fulfillment."

- Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. Principal, The Neurosequential Network, NYT #1 Bestselling Author of "What Happened to You?"

"While I was reviewing this book, four words came to mind: insightful, compassionate, empathic, and deep. Dr. Towns has managed to capture the lived experience of trauma and present it back to the reader as if looking into a mirror. This will truly be a groundbreaking book in the field of trauma. It captures the queer experience and gives a new perspective to the existing heteronormative tools."

- Nick Erber, Ph.D., MA

"It is clear that Dr. Towns has an intuitive understanding of the transactional nature of trauma and how it affects relationships. In a time in the field of big name theorists coming forward with their own mental health struggles, Dr. Towns uses her own lived experiences with trauma tied together with tried and true methods and techniques from Attachment Theory, to produce this easy to understand and down to earth diamond of a resource for clinicians and non-clinicians alike. Her approach is practical, actionable, and most importantly, effective."

- Josh Smith, LMSW, Founder and CEO of DBT Institute of Michigan

"This book is long overdue. As Dr. Jen Towns so clearly describes, few members of the LGBTQIA+ community make it to adulthood without the burden of trauma. The challenges inherent in adult relationships can seem insurmountable. Dr. Towns is a gifted trauma therapist with a deep and personal understanding of the impact of such trauma on adult relationships. In a clear, coherent, and personal way, she provides a tool kit to help couples develop healthy and loving partnerships."

- Stacey Chipman, DHSc, LPC